The original poster (OP) said that her stepdaughter makes “everything about her”

A woman asked if she’s in the wrong for telling her stepdaughter she’s not welcome at her dad’s birthday party.

In a post on the AITAH subreddit, the original poster (OP) shared that she has custody of her 22-year-old stepdaughter’s 2-year-old son for “various reasons.” She also noted that her stepdaughter recently had another baby, a daughter, whom she was able to hold onto custody for.

“Since she’s had the new baby she’s not really been bothered with the 2-year-old, and if she does have him she either plonks him in a high chair in front of the TV or leaves both him and her with my MIL, while she goes back to bed claiming she’s too tired,” OP wrote. “She’s also got it into her head that everyone favors the 2-year-old over the baby because we don’t include her in things or take her out.”

“She’s been told he’s not favored, but as he lives with us and the baby doesn’t,” she added. “We can’t include her in everything and some of the things we do with him aren’t appropriate for a 2 month old. There seems to be lots of resentment by her towards the 2-year-old.”

OP said that her stepdaughter makes “everything about her,” whether it’s someone’s birthday or special event. She added that her stepdaughter even tried to “ruin” her wedding, but she was stopped multiple times.

“Yesterday was my husband’s birthday. He was 40. No phone call, text message or Facebook post came from SD all day,” she wrote. “SDs mom came to ours to drop his birthday present off. When we told her he’d heard nothing from SD she immediately rang her and put her on speaker.”

“She asked why she hadn’t called her dad on his birthday and she said and I quote ‘he doesn’t give a f— about me so why should I give a f— about him,’ ” OP added. “My husband was so upset he was inconsolable at the sheer contempt in her voice. I’m not sure what we expected but it definitely wasn’t that.”

OP went on to say that her family is having a party for her husband. Her husband expressed not really wanting his daughter to be in attendance after hearing her comments.

“He doesn’t like confrontation, so I’m more than happy to tell her he doesn’t want her there because of what she said,” OP said. “Even if she hadn’t said that she’d try and ruin the party like she does everything else because the attention has to be on her.”

OP ended her post asking if she’d be wrong for telling her stepdaughter she’s not welcomed at the party.

Many people in the comments agreed with OP, stating she isn’t in the wrong for telling her stepdaughter she can’t come.

“NTAH but your step daughter sure is. I would never in a million years tell that to one of my parents especially on their birthday,” one commenter wrote. “Unless there is something we’re not being told about her treatment. You do enough for her taking care of her kid and it’s not your fault she’s got it in her head that she deserves more attention.”

“She’s an adult with two kids and needs to act like it,” they added. “She will def try and ruin the party, make sure she’s not invited and make sure she can’t sabotage anything if you can. Tell your hubby this strange says happy birthday and to enjoy the day with people that actually care about him.”