When you’re dating Matthew McConaughey, you’re not just dating him—you’re also auditioning for his family. The Oscar-winning actor recently opened up about his mom’s unconventional methods of testing his now-wife, Camila Alves McConaughey, during the early stages of their relationship. And let’s just say, it’s a story full of cringes and laughs.

In a recent interview, McConaughey, 55, confirmed Camila’s earlier revelations about his mom, Mary Kathleen “Kay” McCabe’s antics. On Southern Living’s Biscuits and Jam podcast, Camila described how her mother-in-law didn’t exactly welcome her with open arms. Instead, McCabe went into full hazing mode.

“She was really testing me. I mean, really testing me. She would call me by all of Matthew’s ex-girlfriends’ names. She’d start speaking Spanish with me in this super broken way, kind of putting me down. I mean, all kinds of stuff,” Camila said.

Imagine trying to make a good impression while getting a roll call of your boyfriend’s dating history.

McConaughey was quick to provide context for his mom’s behavior. “My family is big on rites of passage and initiation,” he shared. “You don’t get into the McConaughey family easily.”

Apparently, dating a Hollywood superstar is only the beginning; surviving a Southern family’s initiation rituals is where the real challenge begins.

The actor revealed that these tests are a family tradition. “Even in our own family—me, my brothers, and my mom—we test each other’s partners,” he said. “We humbly wait, make you cry, and then we pick you up and make your favorite drink. ‘You’re welcome back.’”

It’s like boot camp meets a cocktail party.

Camila didn’t just survive the hazing—she thrived. During a work trip to Istanbul, things came to a head when she finally stood her ground.

“I brought my spicy Brazilian, Latin side,” Camila recounted. “We went back and forth, and at the end, she just looked at me and said: ‘Okay. Now you’re in.’”

Turns out, all McCabe wanted was for her to fight back. Classic.

From that fiery exchange grew an unexpectedly strong bond. “From that day on, we’ve had the most amazing relationship,” Camila gushed. “I have so much respect for her, and she has so much respect for me.” The relationship is so solid now that Camila posted a heartfelt Mother’s Day tribute to McCabe, calling her a teacher of life’s lessons—though not all lessons were easy to swallow.

What about the next generation of McConaugheys? Matthew’s not sure if his kids, Levi (16), Vida (14), and Livingston (12), will be subjected to similar trials.

“We’re just at the start of the dating stuff,” he said. “Talk to me in three years.” Translation: there’s plenty of time to prep for future initiations—with a side of tissues and tequila.

So, if you’re dreaming of joining the McConaughey family, remember: love might get you through the door, but you’ll need grit, humor, and resilience to stay. All right, all right, all right?