The original poster said she feels like she pushed to get pregnant because she was scared she was getting too old to have kids

A mom is admitting she’s having second thoughts about having her two kids so close together in age.

The original poster (OP) shared her story on Reddit and explained that she’s “freaking out” and needs to be “talked off a ledge.” OP said that she’s 8½ months pregnant with her second baby. However, she said she’s having a lot of guilt and regret about the small age gap between her two kids.

OP said her oldest is almost 23 months old, and she’s wishing she’d waited a little longer. She explained that she thinks she just “got scared I’d be too old,” so she pushed to start trying, and she ended up getting pregnant immediately.

“Now I’m feeling so terrible that I won’t be able to pay as much attention to my son,” OP said. “He’s so amazing and I love spending time with him, and now I just feel so much guilt for what I’m about to put him through.”

She went on to ask for advice from the community that might help her get through the next few months.

One person wrote in and shared that it’s normal to feel scared about things changing, regardless of an age gap.

“If it makes you feel any better, this is a normal way to feel regardless of the age gap. I always tell moms that this is a season of life,” they said. “There will be seasons of life where one child needs you more than the other child and vice versa.”

“Your newborn may need you more than your toddler for a season, but that doesn’t mean you’re neglecting your toddler,” they continued. “In a few years, it’s possible your now toddler will need you more than your new baby as the transition to Kindergarten begins, etc. Just examples.”

Another person wrote in who has kids with a 22-month age gap and shared that while it was “rough” for her the first couple of months, things started to get easier when they hit a certain age.

“22 months between my kids. We wanted it that way. It was rough for the first couple of years, but when they were about 2 1/2 and 4 they began to play with each other,” they wrote. “Having a sibling close in age was a gift for them. They are now in their twenties and still pretty close and enjoy hanging out.”

“So, be patient, try to relax and as they grow try to find things they can do with each other, but also schedule solo time every now and then with each parent too,” they added.

A third said that having kids close in age has actually been amazing since they’re now so close.

“Mine are two years and 3 months apart, and I felt the same way! But my oldest loves his little brother!” they said. “He was always asking to hold him and one time tried to pull his shirt up to feed him! They have a great bond!”