In the glittering world of Hollywood, where marriages often burn bright and fade fast, Bette Midler’s union has stood the test of time. The Divine Miss M recently shared a surprising secret to her marital longevity — one that challenges conventional wisdom and might raise a few eyebrows. It turns out that for Midler and her husband, the key to keeping their spark alive lies not in closeness, but in distance — quite literally.
In a recent interview with Entertainment Tonight, the 78-year-old actress and singer shared this surprising detail about her relationship. “My husband snores,” Midler explained simply, revealing the practical reason behind their sleeping arrangement.
Midler and von Haselberg tied the knot in Las Vegas on December 16, 1984, after a whirlwind six-week romance. Their impromptu wedding, officiated by an Elvis impersonator at the now-closed Starlight Chapel, cost just $45. Despite the rushed nature of their nuptials, the couple’s relationship has stood the test of time.
The Hocus Pocus star described their marriage as a “fabulous ride” and reflected on the impulsive decision that led to their lasting partnership. “Always a good idea,” she quipped about their Vegas wedding during an appearance on Today With Hoda & Jenna.
While separate bedrooms might seem unconventional to some, Midler credits giving each other space as a key factor in their marital success. “I think the secret is giving each other a lot of lead and a lot of room and not being in each other’s faces all the time,” she told People magazine in 2014.
The couple shares one daughter, Sophie von Haselberg, born in 1986. Midler has praised her husband as “the greatest father who ever lived,” highlighting his dedication to their family, especially when her career took her on the road.
Despite the challenges of a long-term relationship in the spotlight, Midler and von Haselberg have found a balance that works for them. Their story serves as a reminder that there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to marriage, and sometimes, a little space — even separate bedrooms — can go a long way in keeping the spark alive.
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While Bette Midler’s revelation about separate bedrooms has surprised many, she’s not alone in finding marital success through unconventional sleeping arrangements. Another couple recently shared their own experience with this approach, shedding light on a growing trend in modern relationships.