The mom of three said she’s not sure she’s in the wrong for being upset with her husband

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• A mom on Reddit asked if she’s in the wrong for being upset with her husband for going on a vacation with just his parents, and leaving her and their kids at home
• OP’s husband told her he felt “guilted” into going on the trip
• Many people agreed with OP in the comments, with one person adding that it’s almost unforgivable to go on vacation when their daughter has to have surgery

A mom isn’t sure if she’s in the wrong after getting very upset with her husband for agreeing to go on a vacation with just his parents.

The original poster (OP) shared their story on Reddit’s AITA and explained that her in-laws had asked her husband to go on vacation with them and said they wanted it to be just them and their kids — meaning her husband and his two younger brothers.

If her husband went, OP would have to stay home with their three kids and take on all the responsibilities. She also shared that during the time her husband would be gone, their daughter would be having surgery on her eyes. OP’s husband told her he felt “guilted” into going on the trip.

 

“I’ve been angry with him for three days now for agreeing to go,” OP wrote. “He thinks I should be over it by now. Is he right?”

In her comments, many people agreed that OP was right to be upset with her husband and that it’s almost unforgivable to go on vacation when their daughter has to have surgery.

“Honestly, it’s one thing to leave when times are good, but his daughter has surgery. What if there are complications?” one person wrote. “As your partner, this is beyond uncool, this is a dealbreaker for me. Also, how are these grandparents taking care of their grandkids by whisking away their support system?”

Another person pointed out that it’s one thing for OP’s husband to choose his parents over her, but it’s another to leave their child in another country when she’s having major surgery.

“First NTA. He is choosing his parents over you. But that is minor. His child is having surgery on her EYES and will be out of the country? That is THE issue and I would be talking to a divorce attorney at minimum to learn about my options,” one person said.

“Really ponder this: how do you feel about being married to a man who abandons his children for a free vacation? That is what he is doing,” they continued. “I’m mad for you, don’t get me wrong. But he is doing this to his children too. Your children. I hope this is a spam post because the thought makes me physically ill.”

A third person suggested that OP talk to her husband about finding other childcare options for when he’s gone, and ask his parents to pay for it.

“I’m not going to tell you to jump straight to divorce, but you’ve gotta know that women have divorced their husbands for less,” they wrote. “Is this kind of treatment typical? If so, you’ve got bigger problems to deal with. If not, maybe the two of you should have a discussion about childcare arrangements in his absence.”

“His parents are already paying for his vacation. Maybe they’d like to pay for a nanny to pick up his load, since he’s so ready to drop it at your feet,” they added.